tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post2902960947371679173..comments2023-03-25T12:05:38.111+00:00Comments on L'enfer, c'est les autres: Tipping pointHRDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11380051386252077097noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-53172608617988505932009-11-13T09:32:35.992+00:002009-11-13T09:32:35.992+00:00@Corporate Daycare - I agree I think its a continu...@Corporate Daycare - I agree I think its a continuum and I actually think that people have different tipping points on that continuum of how they view arrogance vs self confidence.HRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11380051386252077097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-61805867325158631062009-11-12T17:10:28.846+00:002009-11-12T17:10:28.846+00:00Both are others' perception of you...what some...Both are others' perception of you...what some see as confidence, others see as arrogance.<br /><br />This is also found in the assertive-aggressive continuum.<br /><br />My take - you can't make people "feel" a certain way, they do this to themselves...<br /><br />However, it is possible to set the tone which makes it easier to feel that you are confident vs arrogant. <br /><br />Great question.JWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04530994596369714147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-27781750167769863252009-11-12T15:49:15.467+00:002009-11-12T15:49:15.467+00:00@sayya - what if you can't measure ability and...@sayya - what if you can't measure ability and it's subjective? How do you decide then?<br />@class-factotum - "arrogance is confidence plus disdain" - I like that a lot.<br />@Fernando - charm is indeed much underrated. AS for school days - I can barely remember what I thought yesterday....<br />@HB - Interesting thought on the dynamic interaction with others. Similar to the fact that good people recruit good people because they are not afraid of the competition?HRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11380051386252077097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-78232855267099876912009-11-12T08:50:59.985+00:002009-11-12T08:50:59.985+00:00As usual HRD, you provoke thought. The result of m...As usual HRD, you provoke thought. The result of mine is:<br />Confidence = justifiable belief in own past/future positive accomplishments + generosity to aloow others'.<br /><br />Arrogance = anxiety about own past/future accomplishments leading to reluctance/refudal to allow others'.Henry Berryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12319361240094939326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-88268317479439969522009-11-11T21:58:41.129+00:002009-11-11T21:58:41.129+00:00I think it is a given that people can be self-conf...I think it is a given that people can be self-confident at what they do. Where they are accused of arrogance, this is probably down to a lack of charm. <br />Charm ought not to be underestimated. We have all met someone who appears confident, inspires confidence, and everyone thinks 'what a great person'. They are probably no more or less confident than the person accused of arrogance, but they do what they do with style.<br /><br />I, too, have to swiftly impress complete strangers. Not just for the continued flow of money into my pocket, but also on behalf of others who have everything to lose. I try to invoke courtesy and charm as further tools to help me do this.<br /><br />I recall when we were both younger that I was accused of arrogance at school. This was by fools who failed to understand the meaning of the term. However, one learns from the experience- it is all in the delivery. My claims to my own abilities at school were fully justified by my later academic and professional achievements, yet in youth I lacked a charm and advocacy.<br /><br />The difference between confidence and arrogance is easily discovered by reference to a dictionary. The important point to focus on is how to be self-confident with charm.<br /><br />And there is my two-penneth<br /><br />(by the way, did you subscribe to the view that I was arrogant all those years ago?) ;)Fernandomandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09309743443604153054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-32067104082249986942009-11-11T21:18:08.862+00:002009-11-11T21:18:08.862+00:00Arrogance is confidence plus disdain.Arrogance is confidence plus disdain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-31545574339389366812009-11-11T14:49:57.674+00:002009-11-11T14:49:57.674+00:00It ain't bragging if you done it.It ain't bragging if you done it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-11021393672077558632009-11-10T22:49:35.421+00:002009-11-10T22:49:35.421+00:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17277838955942567385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8111004075623905123.post-5837822653108463752009-11-10T15:01:15.494+00:002009-11-10T15:01:15.494+00:00yup- there is a difference between arrogance and c...yup- there is a difference between arrogance and confidence. Confidence is the belief or self-assurance in your abilities. Arrogance is when you've exaggerated your competence and importance to the point where you believe you can do no wrong.<br /><br />that's my take on it anyway.<br /><br />As for needing to have either one given the profession. Confidence is always a plus- I guess in some cases arrogance can come in handy too- but I have to think of an instance.Sayya26https://www.blogger.com/profile/07067081272185537941noreply@blogger.com